Education and parenting: My changing belief system

by psphd on November 19, 2013

I stopped writing for about a week and a half because I’ve been experiencing some cognitive dissonance. Our lives have changed drastically during the past few months, things have been so stressful – and now they aren’t. It’s really fantastic that life is good around here now that the chronic stress is gone, but it’s caused me to question my beliefs about things I thought were obvious and true. Things that clearly seemed to be the right thing to do. Like sending Jack to school, or employing a parenting  style that doesn’t suit me but is recommended for parents of children with ADHD. It feels overwhelming – like everything I know has been flipped upside down – but it also feels great.

Jack learning

Now that I’m not trying to hold on to separate beliefs and try to make them fit, I feel better. But it’s still disconcerting because now what I believe in is at odds with what the majority of people believe, to the point that it feels like my thinking is so radical I don’t even want to share with others. Lately, especially since beginning my dissertation, I’m feeling incredibly grateful that I read way faster than average because it allows me to take in huge quantities of information in a short amount of time. Within the last month I’ve read a lot about homeschooling and education, and the approach that seemed insane to me as recently as three months ago (unschooling) is now the way I live, and I can’t imagine doing it any other way. Unless Jack states that he wants to attend formal school again someday, I don’t plan to send him back.

I’m not ready to go into this in more detail yet, but I wanted to post about it since it’s affecting my writing productivity. It helps to get it out there.

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

erin November 19, 2013 at 12:24 pm

My life is getting better everyday because your post and it really reflects what I think of when it comes to my own kids. Thank you for this blog.


psphd November 20, 2013 at 8:26 am

Thank you. I appreciate you reading and commenting, it helps motivate me to write more!


amy November 19, 2013 at 2:45 pm

I can’t wait to hear more of what you have learned about, “unschooling”.


psphd November 20, 2013 at 8:42 am

I’ll write more about it soon, but honestly it feels so radical that I’m almost afraid to admit what it’s like for us. But why? Because people might judge me? Whatever. I have to get over that.

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